This conversation came up in a class this week as we were talking about how different kids respond to their environment. The analogy comes from a book by paediatrician, Thomas Boyce, and basically goes like this:
- Dandelions thrive almost anywhere. They’re adaptable, go-with-the-flow types who can make progress in most environments.
- Orchids are more sensitive. They need specific conditions to thrive- like structure, nurturing, and a safe space- but when they bloom, they’re extraordinary.
Now, full disclosure, I haven’t read the book. But the conversation got me thinking about how this idea applies to our health journeys.
Dandelions often find it easier to pick up new habits, stay motivated, and embrace the “something is better than nothing” mentality.
Orchids, on the other hand, can feel overwhelmed by too many options or a chaotic schedule. They may wait for perfect conditions before they start something new.
For years, I thought I was an orchid when it came to exercise. I felt like I needed the perfect setup: no distractions, the right gear, and at least an hour to myself. And for a while, life let me have those conditions.
But with a few more responsibilities (and kids) now? Life isn’t handing out “perfect” very often.
So, I’ve learned to embrace the dandelion approach. And you know what? I’ve started to think we’re all more dandelion than we give ourselves credit for.
This week, I’ve heard three stories from mums that prove it:
- One mum was convinced she needed to exercise outside the house, away from her kids. But when she finally gave it a try at home, the kids barely noticed and just got on with their own thing
- Another mum told me her son started holding her accountable, asking when she planned to do her workout that day
- And another shared how she squeezes in just 15 minutes at the gym after kindy drop-off. It’s not ideal, but she figures something is better than nothing- and it’s working
It made me wonder: Maybe we’re all more adaptable than we think.
So, What Does This Mean for You?
1. Decide (and accept) which one you are
If you’re a dandelion, lean into that adaptability. Can you turn little pockets of time into movement? Squats while waiting for the kettle to boil? A quick walk during your kid’s nap? Your superpower is doing what you can, when you can.
If you’re an orchid, acknowledge your need for structure. Maybe you thrive with a set plan, a clear goal, or a quiet space. Build routines that make you feel supported, whether it’s a scheduled workout or accountability from a group.
2. Experiment with the other side
The beauty of this analogy is that you don’t have to stay fixed. You can borrow strengths from both sides.
- If you’re used to structure, try loosening up and seeing how flexibility feels. You might discover you’re capable of more than you thought, even in imperfect conditions.
- If you’re all about spontaneity, try adding a little structure. A 10-minute plan might surprise you with how much it simplifies things.
3. Start Small
This week, I challenge you to embrace your inner dandelion, or orchid. Could you squeeze in something small and doable, like calf raises while brushing your teeth? Or try setting a plan for just 10 minutes of intentional movement?
Whatever you choose, remember: you don’t need perfect conditions to make progress.
Let me know- are you embracing dandelion vibes or orchid energy this week? Hit reply and share your plan. I’d love to hear about it.